There is a term....”crabs in a bucket”.
I didn't understand what that meant when I was trying to get out of the bucket myself. I didn't live near a coast, and still think eating crabs in the shell is kind of gross.
I do thank God I now live in the South.
It's generally widely understood that trash comes in all colors, and the bigger the bucket, the harder it is to crawl out of it.
and not trying means not doing what needs to be done to get out: stay in school, learn the English language, and get a job.....