The definition of "anarchy" is "without a ruler".
Suits me.
The literal etymology of "anarchy" - an + arxos - actually means "without a magistracy."
"Without a ruler" would be anakratia, or "anacracy" along the same lines as "democracy", "aristocracy" etc.
The actual historic definition of the English word "anarchy", according to the OED, is "absence of government; a state of lawlessness."
I personally do not care to have a ruler.
What I do care to have are laws, and a government that executes the laws equitably.
The viewpoint that holds that anyone who is dissatisfied by the laws should feel free to break them if he wants to is a viewpoint that advocates complete lawlessness.
That is not what the Founding Fathers wanted, and it is not what anyone with a functioning brain wants.