I will ask this...before i answer your question...
God” allowed this woman to suffer an embolism while pregnant.... Did His “plan” really involve her being on life support to sustain the fetus for 6 months inside a deceased mother’s body when He could have delayed that long enough for the child to be delivered?
Have you ever stopped to consider that someone who is relegated to reacting to the acts of another is thereby lessened to a role determined by the other? And now I'm wondering why you've seen fit to try and change the focus in order to shift rrsponsibility to God.