I think you mentioned Catholic, actually. We’d discussed your situation early and I said that if you were matrilineally Jewish they’d take you in a Jewish congregation with no problem. And you said no, that was patrilineal.
Catholic congregations vary so, so much. Some are stiffly legalistic. The church clergy becomes a salvation gate committee, so to speak. If you don’t toe the line exactly the way they say, then you go to hell. And that’s very sad because it isn’t true. The bible quotes Jesus: “No one shall snatch them out of My hand.”
All I can say is, when Jesus meets my mother, he’s going to have a hell of a time turning the other cheek.