Sure, what you say is true. The thing is: most of us just don’t care anymore.
We used to care. We tried to bow and scrape and make amends. Didn’t work. They hate us anyway, and all signs say that they will always hate us. So why should we bother caring about how they feel when nothing we can do, short of all killing ourselves, will do anything to change it?
They don't hate because of what white people have done. They hate because of what white people ARE.
They look around and see white people founding major corporations. They see Asians and Latinos starting their own businesses and making a go of it. What are their more prosperous black friends doing? Being government employees, or being academics in "reserved" sections of the university, or being the "diversity officer" in a company run by white people.
It's easier to hate white people than to admit that blacks have to stop whining and work harder in school at passing math and science, and learning to write and speak proper English.