You have nailed it!
First these perverts wanted acceptance; now they want approval.
I believe deep in their hearts, whether they profess to believe in God or not, they know this behavior is indeed a perversion. They’re hoping that if society begins to accept it as normal, they’ll feel better about themselves and their CHOICE. This won’t work, however. Since God calls it a perversion, it is a PERVERSION! This is why these people have very little peace in their hearts about THEIR CHOICE, and as you so aptly point out “redirect their self-hatred towards others.
Many of us will never accept it as normal!
"This insistence fixes him in frustration and anger against those who hold to biblical religion, and may be relied upon to assure development of justifications for the punishment of the illiberal religions wherever homosexualism wins the power to do it. Attempts to incarnate itself in society can only be destructive to its religious enemies. It must be firmly opposed by those who do not wish it to do as it will in their culture, their governments, their schools, and their homes."
-- S. M. Hutchens (writing in the November-December 2011 issue of Touchstone Magazine: A Journal of Mere Christianity