I’ve never in all my life seen someone eat a cupcake with a fork.
You miss my point. Cake is meant to be eaten with a fork. Cupcakes are meant to be eaten with one's hands.
Cupcakes are childrens' food. They were never intended to be adult food. Adults might buy a slice of cake at a restaurant or pastry shop, and eat it with a fork.
"Cupcake shops" are part of the infantilization of society. That food we gave up in our pre-teen years, now is gourmet adult fare.
Like I said. Gourmet chicken nuggets are coming soon to a five-star restaurant near you.