Men living Bliblical lives is constantly addressed from the pulpit. Not so with women. There is a “double-standard” double-standard. Whenever the idea of female sin is brought up, Churchians say, “But what about men! Why aren’t you talking about men! Why is there a double standard.” But when male sinfulness comes up, no one wver says, “But what about women! Why aren’t you talking about women too! It takes two to tango.”
Historically and socially, for the entirety of human civilization, men were the gatekeepers of commitment, and women the gatekeepers of sex. Marriage had social value because men gave commitment to women, in return for women giving sex. The result was a stable family unit in which the next generation could be raised. But when feminism came, women were taught that it was “liberating” to give sex to men without receiving corresponding commitment. It was feminism that got rid of the idea that women should require commitment, and it did so by making commitment—namely permanent matrimony—seem to women like it was misogyny and male-dominance.
Thirdly, though most church goers outside the millenial generation don’t realize this, it isn’t the nice church-going boys that the young girls are fornicating with. The pastor who demands that young men in his church live more Biblical lives, is not realizing that the guys who are causing half the problem aren’t present to hear his sermons. The church-going young women aren’t dating church-going young men. Those good boys aren’t exciting enough.
This isn’t always the pastor’s fault, since the older generation doesn’t often realize what is going on in thenyounger generations. But unfortunately, the church has to a large extent accepted the world’s feminist idea that it is wrong, sexist, etc. for the men of the community to oversee and regulate whom the young women are socializing with.
Seems more a parenting problem than a church problem. But if churches started kicking out divorced people and unwed mothers, what would happen?
I was a young single mother from a Catholic family with both parents-after a foolish elopement and annulment-and I didn’t use it as an excuse to go fornicating with guys, churchgoing or otherwise-I got my ass to college and work to support my child-likely because I was brought up with a sense of responsibility...
What a load of twaddle. There are MANY churches still holding the line. I attend one.