I would think that a woman from a bad family with abusive males might be attracted to a Muslm man, but the ones I know who have fallen into that error have all been from great families! Chalk it up to incipient masochism and emotional instability.
Ghurka’s are very polite hard working people, until they unsheath their khukuri.
Incredible tales of their effectiveness at hand to hand.
Sometimes families which appear great to outsiders may not be “great” behind closed doors.