The only agenda she seems to have is wanting to live her life and do her job without being bothered. She's not marching in the streets or picketing for gay marriage or waving her partner in her student's faces, and if she was then I wouldn't be defending it. She wants to be left alone, to keep her private life private and her work life separate from it. What's wrong with that?
To repeat: An understated 'coming out' is still a 'coming out' and a scandal. "scandal is a word or action evil in itself, which occasions another's spiritual ruin. It [...] may be understood [...] in a large sense, as when a person without being directly concerned in the sin nevertheless exercises a certain influence on the sin of his neighbor, e.g. by committing such a sin in his presence (this is inductive scandal in a broad sense)." - http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/13506d.htm
You are willfully ignoring her assertion that the Church should change its position regarding gay couples. Obviously, she does not just want to be left alone. Stop, already. You’re not even paying attention here.