“I can’t imagine coming home and having to cook dinner and deal with someone else’s problems,” she said. “I’m not there yet.”
Middle-class America now looks down on women who fail to get an education and support themselves. “Gold-digger” is the nicest word for those who don’t, when they used to be called aspiring wives and mothers.
Well, this woman did what society expected. You can’t call her lazy or a gold-digger.
She is simply reasonably asking how she can work eleven-hour days, then come home and care for a husband and children. It’s untenable. It’s bad for children. Marriages do not have a chance. And this generation has figured it out.
If we’ve learned nothing else over the last forty years, it’s that this impossible scheme simply doesn’t work. Why should she wreck her life and her kids’ lives and some guy’s life trying to do the impossible? If you have children, you need to be a mother and only a mother. You need a man willing to marry who isn’t going to bemoan that lost second income.
What’s left out of this discussion is men’s role in deconstructing society. They won’t marry full-time homemakers — it’s embarrassing. They want someone with an important job — just a little less prestigious than their own. They marry later and later, if at all. How is it that houses today have twice the square footage they had in the 1970s? Two incomes.
Working mother is a miserable way to live. I’m not mad at anyone who eschews it.
“What’s left out of this discussion is men’s role in deconstructing society. They won’t marry full-time homemakers — it’s embarrassing. They want someone with an important job — just a little less prestigious than their own. They marry later and later, if at all.”
There is simply too much legal risk in marriage for men today, and a great chance they will be cut out of the lives of their children. The thought of some strange guy sleeping in “my” house, with my kids in it (especially daughters), would drive me nuts. If I was to marry an American woman there would be pre-nups that no woman would ever sign (I would have sole custody of any children, there would be no amilony, etc.); THOSE are the impediments to marriage.
“How is it that houses today have twice the square footage they had in the 1970s? Two incomes.”
In my area the new big houses have playrooms for the adults, and no yards for children. They also don’t sell well anymore; the houses from the seventies (made for a sizable family) are being converted into 2 family homes because of the “birth dearth”. Housing is dependent on growing populations, so illegals are being let in to address our reproduction issues.