[BwanaNdege]

Love is a choice.

There are various emotions which are also called “love”, but these are often variable and sometimes fleeting.

Love is an act of the will, a commitment. Once it is made, the various feelings labeled “love” usually make their appearance. This time they are often mostly stable and permanent.

Commitment is far more important than “compatibility”, finances, physical appearances or even “hot sex”. Again, once there is commitment, these other things usually follow.

[what's up]

True. And this is why shotgun weddings usually are more unstable.

Those entering into shotgun marriages never had the kinds of commitments to real love inspired by an act of the will; the early pregnancy indicates a devotion to emotion rather than will.

[Alaska Wolf]

Commitment is far more important than “compatibility”, finances, physical appearances or even “hot sex”

Exactly. Being successful at any endeavor takes commitment.