Sounds to me like your pastor (or you) need to deliver a serious butt-kicking to the young men. A Biblical butt-kicking, but butt-kicking nonetheless.
While I get your point, there is a huge number difference between the young ladies and young men in our church. I’m not sure why that is at the moment. Perhaps a “wave” of baby girls? We also have some recently joined ladies who were single and then had a child and the sperm donor ran off.
sigh - lots of work to do for both sexes.
We are a small church that is focused on bringing in the non-believer or the first time Christian. Meet them in love, start them on basic Christian tenants and concepts. Get the world view of “Christian” out of their head and replace it with a Bible view of Christian. In some cases, that can take several years.