Posted on 11/09/2012 10:52:34 PM PST by Olog-hai
Family breakdown is as devastating for today’s children as it was when divorce was a source of social disgrace, a state-backed report warned yesterday. Even though divorce is no longer considered ‘shameful’—as it was until the 1970s—the children of broken families continue to suffer destructive effects throughout their lives, the report said.
The paper, produced by a team of senior academics, found that the damage caused to a child by divorce continues to blight his or her life as far as old age. It said parental separation in childhood was ‘consistently associated with psychological distress in adulthood during people’s early 30s’. The report added: ‘This seems to be true even across different generations, which suggests that as divorce and separation have become more common, their impact on mental health has not reduced.’
It comes a week after figures were published showing that almost half of all children have now seen their parents break up by the time they are 15. …
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Click, click click- a whole bunch of very serious puzzle pieces in my emotional junk-drawer just came together in understanding why certain things are the way they are in my life.
Thank you- this thread has hit home like no other. Going to donate to FR today in appreciation.
That is to ignore the elephant in the room: divorce is like cutting the Gordian knot. It solves nothing, it only destroys. It promises happy outcomes it does deliver. Sort of like adultery, or getting drunk. The hangover is worse than the pain you are trying to escape.
Obviously, your eye hasn’t been blackened.
You presume wrongly.
My fraternal twin was his favorite to such an extent that not only we sisters were jealous, but my mother was jealous too. It's a very stupid man who does that.
And yeah, there have been other men for whom nothing was ever good enough. Fortunately I'm with someone better now.
Oh, yeah, I'm 6'1"' and although I am not and was not ugly, there have been times when it has been painful to see that a lot of men prefer women who are a lot smaller, less intelligent, etc., than they themselves are.
One ex-boyfriend had an ex-girlfriend from hell. About 5 feet tall with big boobs, and a real beeyotch in many ways, including promiscuity and multiple children out of wedlock. I hated her for the way she treated my ex and those kids, and also other men. But as long as her looks held out, she could get away with outrageous things. Made her look dumb, and made the men look dumb too for having anything to do with her.
Yes, it might have been nice to have more of a choice, instead of merely taking what I could get.
Anyway, I'm glad there are some decent men in this world. I finally got together with one.
My (hardcore leftist education-establishment) stepmother was the same way. I eventually stopped seeking to engage in any activity that she could take away, and missed much that would've been worthwhile in my high school years because of it.
When I realized how to Galt a control freak like her and started to do so, things went from bad to worse. I got thrown out and sent to live with relatives in a distant city.
That ended up being a positive thing in the end, though. I finished HS in a new school and began to see that there was something other than illogical, dysfunctional leftism in the world (thanks Andy S. at CHS for pointing me in the right direction).
placemark
Still, if I ever do go back to Miami, I will piss on the family graves (father's side). The last uncle on that side promised me he was remembering me in his will, but it was total BS. The lawyers told me there was nothing in the will or trust for my sisters and me.
At least I've always been willing and able to work to support myself, even if I wasn't doing a lavish job of it. We're going to get out of California hopefully soon. Right now, I figure that once we get to northern Arizona, we can save significantly on rent and utilities. Maybe we'll even own property at some point.
Life has been difficult at times, but it's still a gift.
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