To be honest, one reason we chose to adopt from China was because of the adoption process here, and the idea that it would have to be an open adoption. We had neighbors that went the open adoption route and all seemed well for the first few years, until the biological mother was no longer a teenager and wanted much more contact with the then little five year old. She found out where the girl went to school and would show up at their house unannounced. She wanted to be able to take the girl places, and mentioned how she was really mommy in front of the confused little girl. The adoptive parents wanted to stay in contact, but it was confusing
for the little girl, the biological mother acted like she was going to steal “her” daughter back and the family became scared for their little girl. They eventually moved and I believe the judge gave them a restraining order
against the biological mother. The little girl knows she’s adopted, is about 10 now and very happy.
You made a good decision on the overseas. May He bless your family and your friends. :-))