Again, please: what term(s) is(are) inoffensive to you?
I will let you decide and withdraw my request. We can make strong arguments against policies such as minority set asides as being not in the interest of society. If we use the N word in our commentary, we have lost the argument. We can make strong arguments in defense of marriage. If we use a term such as faggot, it might make us feel good, but we have lost the argument.
We can look at it different ways here and still get along.