My wife’s cousin is dating a black man. I spent the week with them on vacation, and we had some rather frank discussions on race and racism.
First of all, he said that when he was growing up (graduated in 1984), there was still a lot of open segregation and racism in the deep south. Second, even though he no longer lives there, and it is no longer the same, he has noticed that the patterns he learned from his parents and grandparents are VERY hard to unlearn.
As an example, we talked about sending my daughter to a private school, and his first thought is we were doing it because we want her to be around only white kids (the school is 20% minority). After he thought about it, he knew it was just his reaction, not reality.
My point is it will take generations to undo such programming, if ever.
“First of all, he said that when he was growing up (graduated in 1984), there was still a lot of open segregation and racism in the deep south.”
Unlike the north, where no racism has existed for a hundred years and everybody holds hands, regardless of race, while riding their unicorns under rainbows.
Once thing that would help the American psyche would be to rid ourselves of the lie that racism was/is a wholly owned subsidiary of the South. The most racist white people I’ve known have been from the north...yet they walk through life with the delusion that they are superior to Southerners.
Born and raised in the Northeast from Philly to Bahston. Haved lived in the deep south since 1987.
I have observed more racism in Philly and Boston (up to this present day, with visits back there) than I have ever observed in the (rural) deep south.
Not saying that his experience is not real...I have had a much different experience.
Mrs. JimRed's cousin (widowed) married a black man. We visited their place in PA last weekend for a family gathering, but the missus laid down the rules- NO politics, race, religion to be discussed. If someone else brings it up, bite your tongue and grunt, but don't respond.
Too bad, because Mike seems to be the kind of guy with whom I could have a good dialogue and still remain friendly.
Tell him where I grew up and went to school that I never saw one black ever, ever, ever, in any school that I went to from 1st grade to 12th grade graduation.
Never. I went to Worcester & Trooper grade schools, then Methacton high School.
Think I was down here in the deep South?
That was Montgomery County Pennsylvania, 20 miles from the wonderful city of Philadelphia.
Not until I moved to Florida did I see other races in school.
Doesn’t support his narrow experience.
My point is it will take generations to undo such programming, if ever.
My point being, we will never unload black racism until the elite are made to stop using it for power. They are spreading the divison and hate to all races. They divide and conquer Americans by race for power just as they have always done.
besides, yes people do send our kids to private school and its for a reason....we want them to be around kids from families with similar values...and if that means white kids or asian kids or Jewish kids, then so be it....
it is what it is....
its human nature to seek people with similarities...
True. It is understandable how the blacks came to carry the chip that a lot of them do.
The difference between the 80's and the 40's is they just switched the target of their discrimination.
Racial preferences were held against whites. Now whites are starting to carry a chip too. How is that good?
It all boils down to, are we treated EQUALLY?
Obviously not.
I'm at the point where I would just say; "Damn right!"