If you are merciful to the stupid, you are being cruel to the smart. Yes shame can be cruel, but it motivates parents to be especially attentive to what their daughters are up to. It also forces daughters to resist opening their legs up to any handsome seductive young man who wants to f**k them so they can brag about it afterwards and immediately abandon them when they find out the girl is pregnant. I know my language was a bit harsh (forgive me), but the consequences for the girl and child is even more harsh and forgive will only expand this behavior to the point it will become another burden to the taxpayer who is teaching their daughters to be responsible.
Too many Americans admire the strong family value system in Asian society (Confucius based) but too many do not realize the strict social enforcement mechanism needed to make it work.
Today many woman with college education in big cities go out drinking on weekends till the wee hours of the morning. Some of them wake up surprised they have been raped or worst assaulted or dead. Still many wonder how it could happen. When your society cannot understand that woman have vulnerabilities that are not shared by men, and yet we let them go about free and reckless, well rape, unwanted pregnancies, or rape/death are the consequences. This is true since pre historic times and the savagery do not go away because we have smartphones and ipads.
It also forces daughters to resist opening their legs up to any handsome seductive young man who wants to f**k them so they can brag about it afterwards and immediately abandon them when they find out the girl is pregnant.
And who is raising these young "men" to have such attitudes?
(Remember when "defrauding a virgin" meant something?)
I know my language was a bit harsh (forgive me), but the consequences for the girl and child is even more harsh and forgive will only expand this behavior to the point it will become another burden to the taxpayer who is teaching their daughters to be responsible.
Don't apologize. This point needs to be driven home.
Today many woman with college education in big cities go out drinking on weekends till the wee hours of the morning. Some of them wake up surprised they have been raped or worst assaulted or dead.
Alcohol + strange men = danger.
Still many wonder how it could happen. When your society cannot understand that woman have vulnerabilities that are not shared by men, and yet we let them go about free and reckless, well rape, unwanted pregnancies, or rape/death are the consequences. This is true since pre historic times and the savagery do not go away because we have smartphones and ipads.
YES!
We don't really seem to have, in our modern society, a way of socializing young women and training them in how to deal with men with an eye towards marriage. I think some places still have cotillion as a way of training young people in social graces, but that's pretty hard to find. It's such an essential, bedrock thing and it is being tragically overlooked. Now you have the value-free, market-driven entertainment (Hollywood) and advertising ("Madison Avenue") industries teaching their values to young people, and to be sure they are not at all concerned about the grave consequences for future generations.
Nothing ruins your day like waking up dead.