There used to be shame about these matters. But there is no shame anymore, because we are supposed to be liberal and non-judgemental about things such as out of wedlock births.
Nobody wants to think about shotgun weddings anymore. Many of us can remember a time when family or friends “had to get married”, or remember hearing that a boy got a girl in trouble.
I hope I don’t get banned for saying this, but, part of the issue is that people have a sex drive, and even back when traditional sexual morality was respected, a number of people crossed certain lines. Back then, there was at least some recognition that one’s sex feelings could cause you problems if you weren’t married. But nowadays, we celebrate sex of all kinds, even homosexuality.
The difference between now and then has to do with personal responsibility. A man felt strong pressures to marry a girl he got in trouble. A girl felt strong pressures to formalize their relationship with marriage, and create a family out of their situation.
Nowadays, nobody feels any pressure or impulse to do anything. When there is no social stigma about behavior, you unfortunately see an increase in that bad behavior.
I agree. Again, bring back shotgun weddings!
I agree. Again, bring back shotgun weddings!
In the old days (fifty years ago), the incidence of unwed motherhood was low enough that where it was unworkable for the girl to get married, she could go "visit relatives" for a few months, the child would be adopted by a loving couple, and life would move on. We now have too high an incidence among certain populations to make that workable. Plus black social workers have been adamant that black babies could not be adopted by white couples.
Shame is an important emotion for rational humans with consciences. People who feel no shame when contemplating or performing shameful actions are worse than animals. So now we have a population with a large feral animal consciousness. What to do next?
Well, many people have a lot of ideas, but here is what (IMHO) will happen.
The ongoing economic collapse will speed up, and fedgov will no longer be able to provide for the many millions it provides for. Many will die, and of the ones who survive, some happy few will learn personal responsibility, some will become cunning criminals who hopefully will meet justice.
In the meantime, civil disruption is inevitable even apart from the economic collapse, due to commie crap larding DC and many states. And now racist violence is fomented by the left for lo these many years and now brought to a head of steam by the steaming pile running the country. So the path from “here” to “there” (meaning a place with solutions) is fraught with danger, hardship and violence, and there is no way around it.
Marriage is the best solution if possible. I am not against some social pressure on the baby daddy to man up and face his responsiblities. Many marriages have started out this way, some times they work out, some times they don’t, but even if the marriage doesn’t work out, at least they tried and the children will know that their parents made the effort to get married. It shows some respect for their child and societies’ morals.