I can’t say I see much of what you’re describing in my parish.
No bongo drums, and guitars are relegated to the Saturday evening Vigil Mass.
No chattering in the church, though some quiet conversations go on in the narthex before and after Mass.
Tabernacle is center front, and everyone makes a gesture of reverence to it. Votive candles are front/right, and used.
And here’s a clue. The “Novus Ordo” is just as much Catholic as the tridentine Latin mass it replaced, as it was instituted by the Supreme Pontiff and the bishops in council.
Since I came from an Episcopal/Anglican background, the Novus Ordo is very familiar. Yes, the language is a bit mundane. IMO, what the council should have done was steal a “Book of Common Prayer” from the Episcopalians, correct the doctrinal errors, and use it. The “antiquarian” (Elizabethan) English adds the needed extra degree of reverence that you think is missing.
The Anglicans may have been heretics, but they turned out some of the most beautiful English translations ever done. The Douay-Rheims bible can’t hold a candle to the King James, linguistically.
And “modern” bibles may be more accurate and doctrinally sound, but artistic and inspiring language they do NOT possess. Just compare the 23rd Psalm from the King James to the current version (actually, there “is” no comparison).
I think we should just steal the 1662 BCP (after all, the heretics aren't using it any more), make appropriate adjustments in the Eucharistic prayers to correct the theological vandalism of Edward VI's bigoted advisers, and adopt it. We'll need a good committee of 17th c. English scholars to make sure that there's a seamless join between the ancient and modern (that's the big problem with the Anglican Use Rite as currently constituted -- the patches show.)
While we're at it, I propose that we steal the 1982 hymnal as well. Richard Proulx (and whatever you may have thought of him, he was a musician) edited it, and except for a few clunkers (mostly the multi-culti nonsense that I'm sure the radicals insisted be included over his protests) it's excellent, and it stole an awful lot of music from us.
Our parish, btw, is much the same as yours, except the "guitar Mass" is Sunday evening.