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Why not? A child that needs a family is a child that needs a family. A family that wants children is a family that wants children.

My son-in-law is first generation American, his parents were refugees from Pol-Pot's Cambodia. My SIL is very dark skinned. My grandbabies are dark skinned.

Do you have a problem with that?

I've stood in loco parentis to teenage black girls when my girlfriend was deployed to a war zone.

Do you have a problem with that?

I'm not even pasty white. I'm fish-belly white.

Get over it.

/johnny

Pasty white? Fish belly white? White skin is beautiful too. I know you
wouldn’t use such negative descriptives of dark skin. People who have white or pale skin shouldn’t do it to themselves either. Creamy ivory or pale porcelain skin has been considered a beautiful tradition for thousands of years.

Why go abroad for adoption? In our case, it was age. When we started looking into adoption, we were told that the waiting period for a healthy infant in the U.S. was 5-7 years, with no guarantees of actually getting a child at the end; that if you were over 35, you could pretty much forget it unless you have big bucks for a private placement; that domestic interracial adoptions were strongly discouraged (this was 15-17 years ago; the laws have changed); and that the best bet for older parents (over 40) was to look abroad. So we did.

There are added costs and hassles to international adoptions, but also benefits. For one thing, it's final. The birth mom isn't going to get out of prison/rehab five years down the line, or simply change her mind, and show up at your door with a court order demanding to reengage with her child.

The bias against domestic interracial adoptions is a pet peeve. The Indian tribes have been notoriously hostile to adopting kids off the reservations. Back when we were in process, the National Association of Black Social Workers was also kicking up a fuss, on the grounds that black kids should be raised culturally black, whatever that is supposed to mean. Racial resentments aside, the NABSW had a vested interest in keeping kids in foster care, as opposed to finding them permanent homes. Once again, as with the teachers unions, we see a corrupt organization placing adult jobs over kids' best interests. The law has since been changed so that race is not supposed to be a factor in adoptions (the tribes may be an exception; I don't know). How much informal pressure against domestic interracial adoption still exists, I don't know.

P.S. Does anyone know how to get rid of these irritating advertising links? They are "powered by Freeworks," but I don't see freeworks in "all programs." I don't know where it is hiding. My kids use this computer so it is likely something they picked up chasing kids games.