Sometimes the men who fought in the American Revolution went without employment, and fought without pay for a long time. Some went hungry, and some died.
At the beginning of the American Revolution, a minority were in favor of war to get the Brits out.
But they resisted, and they fought. Our minority don't.
You say they had a minority who were in favor of war, Loyalists, and "those who just didn’t want to get involved in the conflict even though they didn’t like what the Brits were doing." Seems to me we only have categories 2 and 3. Both very, very well compensated for their submission, particularly the Loyalists who are compensated richly by the money referenced in paragraph 1 above.
As the wise old Indian said, the wolf that wins is the wolf you feed.
To your first point, I realize that. I am reading a book about the Wives of the Signers of the Declaration of Independence and there was no small amount of suffering among those Patriot men and women.
Our independent spirit has been badly damaged, and the wolf I feed is the one that says Get Prepared. This is going to get ugly.