I haven’t read the last few posts, but I think you are mistaken that you are Alpha. Your dog does not obey you except when he wants, or he would behave as you command, when you command. He is controlling your life, ruining time with friends and family and keeping you all to himself. It sounds like jealously, not fear. If you don’t leave, or if you do and find a home for him with someone willing to work with him, a shock collar may be the answer to essentially retrain him. I hope it works out. Moving is a big emotional strain, especially with pets. All the best to you.
“Your dog does not obey you....”
Excuse me?! My dog does obeys me 99.9% of the time unless put into a situation where he is fearful and instinct takes over. Do you know nothing about mental health issues? With the right look from me, he’d piss himself. My dog does not control my life, ruin my time with family or keep me all to himself. My husband came home today for potentially only one day. The dog was fed, let outside, and petted a couple of times. The rest of my day was spent in family time with my husband and daughter, with my dog very much in the background. I have always considered my dogs to be working animals and not jewelry, or there to fill some personal emotional need. I got my dog because my husband was gone 26-28 days a month and I live in a high crime area. I consider him a working dog. It’s a perk that we get some mutual affection.
“a shock collar may be the answer to essentially retrain him”
Please pimp you product somewhere else. I don’t think inflicting pain on a dog who is in fear is going to break that fear or re-train him. It is only going to reinforce his fear in the situation. If a child is fearful in a situation will a slap from a parent change that? No, it will only make the child more fearful of a future, similar situation and make him distrust the parent. Take psych 101 and get back to me.