Read the news, governments are instituting a new thing called “gay marriage” across the country.
You can not ever force acceptance. That is what this is all about. It's not visiting rights,that can be taken care of with a power of attorney. It's not property rights, that can be taken care of with a contract. It's not about survivor benefits because that can be taken care of with a will. It's about attempting to force acceptance on a society that will not accept you.
Guess what, any hurt you feel about not being accepted will be magnified by the knowledge that people now not only don't accept you, they resent you for attempting to force them to accept you.