Fine, we keep the state defining marriage then, since no one is “pushing” to end that.
You are a study in obfuscation.
I and others advocate ending government licensure / control of marriage: the same government licensure / control which is directly resulting in gay marriage right now.
Ending government control is not the same as endorsing any of the things on the list that you a) made up b) repeat monotonously and c)attribute to others who never endorsed any of the things on your weird little list.