I have a lot less respect for any spouse that would make the "open marriage" suggestion than those who skulk around. At least the skulkers appear to understand the concept of shame. Isn't fidelity supposed to be some kind of, I don't know...vow? To ask such a question of a spouse, to say, essentially, "I have so little regard and respect for you that I want you to know of my intention to break my vows and I encourage you to do the same..." Yeah. I think Newt's idea of conservative principles differs slightly from mine.
In my heart of hearts,I agree with you.