[21twelve]

I think the mechanics of sitting dear-departed grandma in a chair would be difficult. Hence the laying in an open-casket (representing a bed of sorts?) and viewed at the funeral home or one’s house is a more age-appropriate thing. Along with dressing the deceased, putting on makeup, hairstyling, etc.

And as been mentioned up thread, holding, touching, talking to, etc. And perhaps more important when it is a baby that the siblings otherwise may have never seen.

I suppose if it were me - it would be to somehow instill in my kids that this death IS a BIG deal to Mom and Dad - the loss of the baby is no different than the loss of one of you children. So when mom or dad breaks down crying making sandwiches for you kids 6-months from now, maybe you’ll understand just a little and don’t think that we are over-reacting.

[coop71]

Makes sense. Thanks for a logical, reasonable answer to my question. I appreciate it.

[American Constitutionalist]

The notion that Cemeteries are some how creepy came during the 20th century of Hollywood.
At one time people would go to cemeteries as parks and visit their departed relatives as a routines and have picnics, it was normal back then until Hollywood ruined it, now cemeteries have some kind of creepy connotation associated with it.