My daughter in law has a nephew who is almost two years old born with spina bifida. When they firts got the diagnosis, at birth, they were devastated. Now they are beaming parents of a beautiful smiling little boy. He has had some surgery and will probably have more, but if you would see the bright eyes and smile on this little boy you would just want to steal him and take him home with you. He cannot walk normally, but other than that, he is a normal child in every way. Ask them if they would have wanted to abort their baby because he has spina bifida, and I can guarantee their answer.
My parents are in the same camp as your family.
mr brother was born with sp bifada and my parents raised him like they raised us which is the best way to do it. He learned how to ride a bike, ski, etc and hold mutilple degrees. The Drs told my parents to put him in a home when he was born- unreal.