Your 2 relationships must have been really bad, I can feel the hate and bitterness all the way over here. I pray you find peace.
No, they were actually very good. The first was 6 years and a hottie that had a vision of a career as a medical professional, which she is. DMD from Tuft's in Boston. I was there for all of that and found everything I owned in a Tide box on the front porch one day.
The second was 25.5 years, produced 2 children and 4 grandchildren so far.
As soon as one child had 2 engineering degrees, a job with Lockheed Martin and the other had steady employment as a cop, she decided she wanted to jump off the team and spend several months with her commie sister in both Viet Nam and China.
I asked her, then told her, then begged her not to do that and she would not be deterred.
As she was unpacking, I was packing and I never looked back.