I used to joke that I’d read so many smutty novels, by 16 I thought you couldn’t have sex unless someone was tied up.
Wow. That is definitely edgy, and here I thought such novels were all lace and swooning. I would note in passing that -typically- such literature is read by women.
The main issue to me is that porn does dehumanize real people into mere meat puppets. When that attitude is introduced into real life and real lives, the results are brutal and painful. They can scar a person’s spirit.
I’ve come to the conclusion there is no such thing as ‘casual sex’. There is committed sex, and there is predatory sex (which can go both ways and at the same time) but casual? No. It is always important, because at the end of the day there is a real human heart hooked up to those other parts, and hearts are things to handle with care.