Men have won as a result, with no commitment required, and fatherless homes everywhere.
Look in the minority communities, and look at the "free love" society we are living in today.
Women kill the children of men via abortion.
If a child is born, the child's father is very likely to get minimal parenting time within the marriage due to counterproductive 'roles', and even less time in divorce and never-married situations.
There is ZERO "winning" for men in what you describe.