Yes, I know there's a difference between the red bucket and a person and also the amounts involved. The thing is that Cain is wealthy enough that the amounts may correlate and he helps enough people (of both sexes) that he didn't feel compelled to "confess" to charity.
I think I've read enough of your posts over the many years I've been here to think you're not a jerk or a dope. And you may be right that Mrs. Cain will see it your way. I just think there's a very good likelihood that this was innocent charity on a level he can afford and I can't. Also, we don't know what the level was.
I cannot believe the level of silliness I am seeing on this thread. You are HONESTLY trying to compare dropping a twenty into a red bucket at Christmas to giving money to a woman over the course of many years and not telling your wife?