That’s right. And you have to say to your kid, “If anyone ever tells you not to tell me, you HAVE to tell me immediately.”
And if anyone touches you on any part that your swimming suit covers, YOU HAVE TO TELL ME.
And then, you don’t let your kids be alone with any men. Period. Yeah, yeah, I know there are twisted women out there, but they don’t have an appendage that wants to get stuck places it doesn’t belong.
Oh and another real simple rule that keeps things straight: NO SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE.
I agree, Yldstrk! I started talking with my kids about things like this when they were around three. I know a lot of people may think, “A three year old isn’t going to understand this” but he did. A few months after our initial talk, he was being examined by his pediatrician (I was right in the room). The doctor felt his lower abdomen and my son started to yell, “BAD TOUCH! BAD TOUCH!”. The pediatrician praised me and him for understanding this. As for “secrets”, I have always discouraged them. I don’t know how many times I knew what my birthday present or Christmas present would be... once someone said, “This is a secret, okay?”... they came home and told me immediately. I didn’t then negate the action at all. I thanked them for telling me and told them they did absolutely the right thing. As they mature, they can figure out one secret vs another... but not when they are little. IMHO.
How true, how true.
Almost everything that is wrong with society is based on a complete lack of respect for sexual intimacy.