Our American Legion meetings are held at our country club. We have 45 members, half or more in attendance every month. Yes, we’ll have a drink (about half of us) with our meal, but that’s it. We conduct a good meeting, and are engaged in service within the community. About half our membership is also part of our Kiwanis Golden K club as well. So we’re people who are active.
If you’re interested, look for an organization like ours that does things within the community. Not all VFW/Legion clubs are the same and shouldn’t be painted with a broad brush.