I completely agree with you.
If the encounter goes well, it is called a marriage....or an “association”
In the military, they have strict UCMJ rules about fraternization that make these things impossible to defend because of their very nature. But, in the civilian world, there is no law against “dating” or “encountering”.
The repeal of DADT is going to have a devastating effect on the military. No longer can a drill sergeant call his recruits pansies or girly boys when they fail to meet the grade on physical tests. The camaraderie of slapping your fellow soldier on the ass for a job well done will now be considered an act of sexual harassment.
I don't see how we are going to be able to train up a well regulated fighting force when the government will be enforcing EEOC sexual harassment and discrimination standards against superior officers in the Military.