With so many gays, lesbians and transgenders in the work-place - the playing field on risque humor and harmless compliments has been leveled.
Best advice for any employer/manager/employee - focus on your work - keep your mouth shut, wear dark glasses, ear plugs and keep family photos at home.
Do not celebrate birthdays, baby showers, weddings, Easter, Christmas, Hannukah or any of those ‘months’ - take a day off if necessary.
Your advice is good...I was only accused of being aloof because I chose to not get involved in any personal matters at the work place. I did not care what some wore, what they looked like, did not socialize with them so I survived without any accusations.
My sows, cows, and hens never complain when I compliment them. They are just happy to be working for the man.