Without question, the most racist people (conversations) I have encountered have been with African American female co-workers.
I am white, married (DH is also white); have kids; so I was never any threat to my co-workers...but, a light skinned AfAm woman would be unmercifully talked about—just because she was ‘light.’ A white woman found to be dating a Black man, would make the entire group (shades of color didn’t matter at that point) pathological in their anger.
Toss in for good measure the ‘need’ for acrylic nails (but abject hate for the Asian nail techs who they frequented) and it was like the Twilight Zone.
I’m white with straight black hair.
I plopped into a chair at a mall haircutting salon last year for a quick trim.
The beautician was a lovely black lady who was a bit chatty.
My straight black hair brought out an odd emotional reaction in her. I got a loooong story about her younger sister’s straight hair, while she and her older sister have curly hair. The oldest sister treated the baby sister differently.Now that they’re all adult, she was still sad and said, “even today, she’ll invite my younger sister out to lunch and ignore me”
I don’t think we understand how deep-seated these issues are with them. She looked to be in her 40’s and it almost brought tears to her eyes.
I really don’t know what can be done about it, it’s their culture.
Hey, that's understandable...
"Do you have boyfren?"