I guess when all you go by are “surface issues”, which includes skin color, then even natural affection for your own offspring will be at risk.
All 3 of my beautiful interracial children are deeply loved and prized by their mother. No shame, no fear, no worry, no uncertainty. She is their mother and darned proud of it!
(Now, why they don’t look more like their father is another issue...)
One of the standout points in this article is how shallow the interviewees appear to be, in spite of their educations ... but the point about not wanting lighter-skinned children really takes the cake.
It’s common in Latin American families for the spouses to have different skin shades, and for the children to be different from one another and different from either or both parents in various ethnic characteristics.
It doesn’t seem to be an issue for anyone, although I wonder if they’re pushed to label themselves in American public schools.