Ritalin has become an acceptable way to deal with “unruly” kids for teachers. They suggest Ritalin way too often and parents just do what they’re told. “Teacher knows best” BS. When the teacher gets enough of the little bastards medicated, she has an easier time getting yes ma’am’s and no ma’am’s.
With drool cascading over thier chins and spirals in thier eyes the kids will do anything with relative ease.
It is a very delicate matter for a principal (which is the first line) to speak to parents about something being wrong with their child, and they do so usually only after convening a board of teachers and psych/social worker experts to observe and document the child's behaviors (it's called CYA) It is very delicate to suggest that a child who disrupts class constantly, uses pencils to hurt himself an others, rocks in his chair, and spins in a corner ... and on who all available classroom mamagement techniques have been tried, be “evaluated” by educational professionals much less doctors. If schools suggest testing for learning disabilities they may find themselves on the hook to do it, which is expensive. If a kid needs an IEP, it is expensive, the parent must be involved at every step, the paperwork is onerous.
Go volunteer sometime at the local elementary school and try your theories on kids who are untreated and undiagnosed because their parents are in denial. Maybe the teachers never considered your advice that they just need a little “discipline”. There is a need for many one-on-one aides to help these kids or just to remove them from the classroom so the others can be taught