Well, I’m gay (though I appreciate the warning, Yaelle). I joined FR years ago because I though my perspective might add a valued perspective to discussions of this topic. I quickly learned that I was mistaken, and I no longer post here because any opinion I might express on this subject of obvious interest to me would result in a quick zot.
But since you asked, I (a man) can report that, though I appreciate the beauty of women, I have never been sexually attracted to them. I was aware — long before puberty — that I preferred the looks of a handsome man to those of an attractive woman. I am not, to my knowledge, recognizably effeminate. I have always enjoyed a good and close relationship to both my parents — neither distant nor overbearing. I have never been molested, nor was I ever “recrutited.” I have been happily (and legally) married to a man for many years. So there’s your anecdotal evidence, which you may take or leave.