With my psycho ex, I quickly figured out I’d better back up the restraining order with a shotgun.
How long did it take you to figure out he was a psycho?
Wise choice. With mine (unmarried to they guy but a break up nonetheless) after I was in a safe house he stalked me until he discovered where my new home was and was hanging out outside the sliding doors (which at times where slightly open to let in a bit of summer breeze.) I discovered later he was hanging out there because the cat kept meowing at the door in recognition of his presence that I was unaware of.
Bottom line. It was not until later I realized this and called the cops regarding the violation of the restraining order, but had he entered the house, I would have been dead. There is nothing quite like finding out someone has been stalking and watching you nightly within inches of where you are sitting that also continues to threaten your life. Scary stuff and being armed and ready is always a darn good idea. Good for you.