There is no question the act is condemned by God. We don't write the rules. The rules have been given to us and we either obey , or we don't.
I think sometimes in these discussions it's forgotten that homosexuals aren't the only people who have desires that are wrong. Everybody has something they deal with. It doesn't mean we normalize these temptations and say they are okay.
You also choose to believe the rules you read are for everyone...even those that do not believe as you do.