Everything you said!
Interesting tidbit about the crown. I also wore a “crown” at my wedding, one I hand-sewed myself out of buckram, sequins, and pearls. My dress was short (circa 1959) made in a simple brocade in a simple style — long pointed sleeves with tiny buttons at the wrists, empire style with a very fitted waist and a very full skirt, a “boat” neckline, open from shoulder to shoulder, and tiny buttons down the back. No lace, no satin, no chiffon. A few years later, my cousin borrowed the crown and never gave it back.
At the time, neither of us even knew that our family heritage was Swedish! (An odd last name was chosen when the English took over the New Sweden colony in Pennsylvania, and that name carried down in our family to this day. It didn’t “sound” Swedish.)
The idea of a crown at our weddings must have just been “in our blood”.
The other day, a lady on this thread EDINVA and I were on another thread discussing the now-crumbling town of Chester, PA, which was during the 1600's the seat of the New Sweden colony, and is the oldest city in Pennsylvania. I also lived a short hop from the old Swedish church in Philadelphia's Penn's Landing area along the Delaware waterfront.
Philadelphia and the republic owe so much to the Swedish colony, which you do not hear about the way you do the same era's Dutch colony of Nieuw Amsterdam, for instance.