as an alcoholic, whether or not i was 'born' that way doesnt really concern me...the fact is that my lack of recognition of the Holiness of the Lord resulted in my taking a drink, which was essential to discover the full effects of my sinfulness...
born a sinner, will die a sinner, and the only remedy is to accept the work of the Lord in cleansing me everyday...
if someone is 'hardwired' queer, they still have a choice of abstinance, just the same as the unmarried hetero is commanded to do...
easier said than done ??? well duh, but it is commanded, therefore no amount of sugarcoating or legislating will change the Truth...
even in my hetero marriage to a truly beautiful woman, I still fail everyday to live up to my marriage as the reflection of Christ and His Church, but I grow better at it everyday by seeking that Truth and practicing it with repentence...
my .02
Gilbo, your candor is a lesson for all of us. I have a list of people I pray for, and you are now on it. I could use some prayers myself.