>>A woman who prepares herself academically and culturally for a future role as housewife and mother, to be a constructive partner in a functional family, sounds to me like a “responsible” housewife-to-be and mother-to-be. <<
A woman who marries a “geek” because he has potential for earning big bucks, is a “gold-digger” any way you slice it.
I’m married to a “geek” because I love him. I came with a hefty savings and a house.
If you "came with a hefty savings and a house", it had to be through either (1) having previously been a "gold digger", or (2) having had a previous career for which you realistically and responsibly prepared yourself, and through which you earned the hefty savings and the house.
A $100,000 income is not necessarily being wealthy, and in most areas of the country is necessary for a middle class or upper middle class lifestyle.
An irresponsible and unrealistic housewife can turn a $100,000 income into a poverty-level existence very easily, and sap the potential improvements from the husband's career.
A responsible and realistic housewife can help make a $100,000 income a comfortable middle class lifestyle, and contribute greatly to the husband's ability to increase that income substantially through their joint career.
This is not rocket science; neither is it any new age discovery. I'm not a Bible-thumper, but you can read about this same concept in the Proverbs of Solomon.