I’m sorry...I guess I have empathy with all parents of mentally ill children, since I also have a daughter with mental illness. But, I do not have empathy with a person who puts a mentally ill child on a plane just to get rid of the problem!
I had no place to send my kid! Should I have sent her back to the doctor? Maybe her grandparents? Because none of them told me that my child would be ill! No one told me that I would have a hard job raising her...that she would be “sicker” than I thought!
My point is, that there are no guarantees with any child. Don’t adopt if you don’t want problems...shoot, don’t have kids if you think you aren’t going to have problems! It is hard. It is hard to be a parent. And if you adopt, you are as stuck as a parent who gave birth to the child. YOU ARE the parent.
I worked for awhile with special needs preschoolers. A few had severe behavior problems. I thanked heaven every day that I didn't have to take some of them home with me. I had no emotional attachment to those children. I prayed that their parents did, because without that bone-deep devotion, I didn't know how any of them could cope, day after day, week after week.