I guess its all a matter of perspective. I’m 50 and my husband is 53. My husband is basically wheelchair bound and on oxygen 24 hours a day with serious health issues. If i wasn’t able to make a living and take care of the day to day chores neither of us would have any quality of life.
Life isn’t always perfect.
I am sorry to read of your difficulties. Life isn’t perfect by any means. This does not mean that we change our mores and values.