I think you are coming to the party late and half-cocked.
I oppose almost every element of what is called the “gay agenda”.
You said:
“Homosexuals who oppose government oppression and government action beyond that entitled everyone on a rational basis, and identify themselves as such and find themselves welcomed on that basis, can do as much for defusing the homosexual agenda as Black conservatives can for dismantling the welfare state. The opposite drives them necessarily into the arms of the left just for self-preservation.”
Can you please describe how government oppresses or has opprsesed homosexuals? It’s clear to me that the homosexual agenda is all about using Big Government to force their agenda.