Amen. I have worked with numerous 'new' shooters who are having trouble achieving a proper grip with their new tupperware guns. I will let them grab my 1911 and the look on their face is really amusing. Even more so when I tell them the design dates back 100 years. Most of them now have one of Mr. Browning's gems. Ergonomics before there was such a thing.
So what do you recommend for a guy whose piano aptitude was limited by small, stubby hands; natural good aim; strong trunk, but weak arms; looking for adequate self-defense (not just to annoy someone); and not really needing to leave a hole in someone’s chest large enough to stick my arm through? (Disable, but not kill.)