Deroy Merdock reports that Ted and his lover, Archie Case, slept at the white house: The Homophobe Myth:
Third, for those who believe Reagan was a homophobic bigot, consider Robert G. Kaiser's report in the March 18, 1984, Washington Post."The Reagans are also tolerant about homosexual men," Kaiser wrote. "Their interior decorator, Ted Graber, who oversaw the redecoration of the White House, spent a night in the Reagans' private White House quarters with his male lover, Archie Case, when they came to Washington for Nancy Reagan's 60th birthday party — a fact confirmed for the press by Mrs. Reagan's press secretary."
No doubt there were some adulterers who slept overnight there as well as womanizers. Does that make Reagan in favor of adultery? There is a difference between toleration and acceptance. You may want to believe he considered it all perfectly normal, but I think you’ll find evidence that he considered homosexuality a tragic form of mental illness, which is more or less what most psychologists thought at the time (and many still do, although they’d be blackballed for saying so).